I must admit... this has been one harrowing survey. My friend and I poured over the responses we got for several weeks, and we still could not decide which responses carried the most weight, which ones made more sense, and which ones were serious and inclusive enough to make it to the top ten. Yes, friends, from the hundreds of responses we received, we decided to publish only the top ten. And we still aren't even close to reading half of the responses we got. (huhuhuhuhuhu...)
While we are continuing to read and discuss which responses are in, and which ones are out, I'd like to share some responses that tickled my mind a lot. I'm calling this portion "the midway stop" - something similar to the stops people make during long land trips. And so, in no particular order...
1. "My ideal man is simply non-existent. I trust the Lord will send whoever is best for me, just like He did for my mom and my sisters." - from Candy, a 28-year old account executive. My psychologist friend, Gabe, said he found this answer to be "safe," and believes many others will do, too. He said this is typical of someone who simply does not want to get disappointed if she does not get exactly what she wants, or teased if she begins dating someone who is the opposite of the ideal she describes. As for me, I find this "safe" but nonetheless faithful. Yes, of course, I agree with Gabe to some degree but when it all comes down to it we never do find our "ideal"partner - we find someone to love for who that person is, regardless of what we don't like about them, and regardless of how that person loves us back.
2. "My ideal woman is humorous, smart, athletic, adventurous, and an Angel Locsin look-alike." - from Rowell, an 18-year old college student. Gabe took this a step further by asking how long Rowell has had this vision of his ideal girl, and if he could show photos of his previous and present girlfriends. We were astonished to find that, true enough, both girls were indeed Angel Locsin look-alikes! I asked why he broke up with the first girl, and Rowell said, "She creeped me out! She was obsessing with all these Korean boy bands and kept insisting I style my hair the way they do.She also kept nagging me into dressing like they do and shaving my eyebrows to look more like them!" Hmpf... looks like she was trying to style him into her own ideal guy.
3. "My ideal man is responsible, intelligent, hardworking, business-minded, and caring. No, he doesn't have to be good-looking. At ayoko ng mama's boy!" - from Lalaine, a 35-year old single-mom and entrepreneur. Lalaine said her "ideal guy" has evolved through the years because experience has taught her a lot. Her ex-husband (she has been divorced for five years) was good-looking indeed (he looks a lot like Mark Gil), and was pretty intelligent considering he completed two bachelor degrees in Ateneo before moving to the US with Lalaine to get married and start a family. Lalaine said everything was simply "blissful" - she had the best wedding she could dream of and it was the man of her dreams, too... until he decided not to work full-time and began spending more time at home "studying" what types of business to pursue (but never did). And then he began nagging Lalaine to act "more like his mom." Lalaine exclaimed, "it was frustrating that all you hear from him is 'my mom is like this and that' and 'my mom can do this and that' followed up with a 'why can't you be more like my mom?'" She also recalled how his mom would actually "engage herself" in their marital conflict, including herself in conversations and arguments without respect to the couple's privacy. "And he would let her... they would actually gang up on me whereas I was the one working my butt off to get them everything," Lalaine continued. Sigh... the guy filed for divorce five years into the marriage, as his mom recommended.
How about you? Would you care to describe your ideal man or woman and tell us about your experiences? :D
This is all for now... till the next stop, unless Gabe and I finally finish reading the rest of the responses to the survey. ;)
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